Destiny As An Unstoppable Mother #GirlsUnstoppable

This post is part of YummyMummyClub.ca‘s support of the Dove® Unstoppable Moms for Unstoppable Girls Contest. I received compensation as a thank you for my participation. This post reflects my personal opinion about the information provided by the sponsors. Go to www.UnstoppableMoms.ca to enter by sharing how you inspire girls to reach their full potential.

Tammy Mitchell Dove

Looking back in time on my own childhood, sometimes I feel like my destiny was to be nothing close to where I am today. I never felt unstoppable as a child, I was loved, feed but I never felt encouraged or had an unstoppable role model that taught me to take the high road to success. My time as a child does have many happy moments but mainly filled with moments I have forgotten and moved past. Today I look ahead with smiles and love my family with open arms, my past is behind me. However, there are many teachings I took away from my childhood, lessons I learned that were taught to me without intent. I stopped what almost seemed hereditary and built into my genes, the role of alcoholism that ended with me the oldest of four. Although at moments my path in life felt like it was destined to fail, my faith was never to be that of my past.

I have always felt in my heart my purpose is to be an empowering mother to my four children. I have been reaching deep within to find the exact words that speak to my destiny. Bottom line; my purpose, my goal and destiny in my life is to be an unstoppable mother to all four of my children.

Long before peer pressure kicks in, a Mother’s behavior shapes who our daughters are and who she will become. It all starts with a great role model at home standing tall in front of your little girls. I vow to be successful role model to my daughter, by looking in the mirror and complimenting the woman smiling back at me. I am very clear and careful on the words I use making sure she knows how proud I am of who I am looking back at. Although at times I feel uncomfortable with my mid section (after 4 pregnancies that is expected) I have never used a describing word about myself I would never feel proud to hear her use.

I was surprised to learn that 6 out of 10 girls avoid activities because they feel badly about the way they look. It was not long ago Miss C was the only girl in her soccer team, she was sad and discouraged, she felt out numbered, but with encouragement and our cheers from the side line she moved pass her fear of being out numbered. I didn’t realize until I read the statistics my daughter was one of those six at such a young age. I hope that number dips lower and lower in time and praying that with my abilities to be on her side she will never feel like a statistic again. Miss C is now learning Kung Fu and received her yellow belt; she is confident in her moves and gracefully taking on another “male crowded” sport to call her own. When girls have a confident role model at home, they are less likely to let anxiety about their looks or gender hold them back from reaching their goals. We as mothers need to take every opportunity to compliment our daughters not only on their beauty on the outside but their beauty within as well.

My daughter is confident in her abilities, she is focused on her skills because I am sure to be there giving her strength where she needs it most. My daughter knows I am here and always ready to listen to her when she needs to talk, although at her young age of seven she hasn’t reached too many emotional interruptions this confidence in me will be very useful in the years ahead. She knows my ears are hers when needed because I continue to engage with her about her friends, school and boys (already yes) I am as open to her as her little age of seven can handle. We talk about everything and life is constantly throwing opportunities to teach her more as each day goes on.

Most importantly I lead by example, she knows the qualities in a good husband, she sees the respect her mommy and daddy have for each other and she understands it takes a family to be a family. She knows the importance of hard work and taking time to play in between. She has been taught and continues to be taught to be strong and encouraged to never give up because my dialogue to her is open and clear. Most recently I have shared with her to “Lean In” towards success and she will change the world as an unstoppable girl!

Are you an unstoppable mom?

Share YOUR story about a time when you thought about quitting an activity you loved because of how you felt about your body and let them know how you think moms/role models can better support girls to participate in activities. You have until June 13, 2013 to enter. You could win $2,500 for yourself and $2,500 will be donated to help raise a girl’s self-esteem.

Check out more stories on YummyMummyClub.ca about amazing unstoppable moms:

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19 thoughts on “Destiny As An Unstoppable Mother #GirlsUnstoppable”

  • Great post. I’ve been reading a few of the Unstoppable posts and that 6 out of 10 stat always stops me cold. Sadly I was one of the six growing up 🙁

  • I LOVE it! We have so many opportunities as mothers to impact our daughters lives, who they become and what they think of themselves along the way. I think so many times unintentionally we send the wrong message due to our own issues – I’m so happy for your daughter that you’re on it and she’s being encouraged! More kids need moms like you!

  • You tell your story so well! I often catch myself making comments about my body that I shouldn’t be saying out loud (or even thinking!). No, I’m not as thin as I was before I became pregnant but I’ve just come to accept that now. If an extra pouch on my belly is what comes along with my son, I’ll gladly take it! I went through a period of life where I was bulimic and I became very sick. It started after a comment from my mom (who I know wasn’t trying to be hurtful) that said to me on my birthday “Maybe you shouldn’t have cake today since you should lose some weight”. That really hurt and I promised myself that I would never say something like that to my own kids. I always want my son growing up knowing that he’s perfect the way he is.

  • Okay the fact you have four kids makes you unstoppable! LOL. But truly what a great story and it is important to be a role model, even showing the good and yes (even) bad qualities which we all possess and how we can always learn, grow and change. Your kids are lucky to have you.

  • You are an inspiration to your kids. Having 5 kids of my own I know what you mean about the self-image and kudos to you for breaking the cycle.

  • Great post. I am sure you are a great Mom and hurray for kungfu! My girlies are all over kenpo karate. Heaven help any child that messes with my unstoppable girls.

  • I think you have a great outlook on this – I think media is bombarding our children with too many negative messages. We need more bloggers (and moms) like you who are helping show the younger generation that size/looks don’t matter and we should follow our dreams. Kudos to you 🙂

  • I love Dove’s Unstoppable Girls campaign. As a fellow mom of a daughter, I think you are doing an amazing job. I hope your daughter achieves all her dreams and more,

  • Great story! You are an amazing Mom and overcome so much! I’m so proud of you! I hope one day I can be an unstoppable Mom to my boys and PP.

  • I love your “unstoppable” story. I especially applaud you that you rose above alcoholism, which must have been very difficult to have done. Bad choices are not in our genes, we can CHOOSE how to deal with stresses and problems.

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