NO NO NO

My husband and I were talking the other day. He was reading a John C. Maxwell book. He wrote a paragraph in one of this leadership books saying that statistics say for every “YES” parents say to a child the average parent says 10 “NO’s”. 


At first glace it shocked me, then I took a minute to think….it really is easy to just brush them off in the craziness of the day and say “NO” .One time, can easily become Two, Three, Ten, Twenty, Forty…..you get my point. Even if the statistics are wrong, I know in my day “NO’s” surpass “YES”. I know I am not alone. By all means we want to say “YES” but time, and daily obstacles don’t allow us too, for each request! And the more children you have the more requests you get. It just isn’t possible! 


Do we I like to be told “NO” ? 


Do our kids like to be told “NO”?


I have been trying to say “NO” in a different way, so it’s not so repetitive in our house.  

Child: “Mommy can we paint? “ 

Parent: (Get down at there level and give them 100% attention then say) “Wow great idea darling! I know you love to paint, your so good at it! Right now mommy has to get dinner cooking, would you like to help?”

In my reply I have, made her feel great, she had a wonderful idea! Told her I see her talent and strength, and love for painting! And also asked her for help, giving some one on one time. I never once told her that we would later, because if I cannot I would be breaking a promise. 


So let’s all try to say “YES” a little more often or say “NO” a little more differently to our children! And I understand sometimes “NO” is the right answer and then of course use it!


 I love Quotes and there are so many suiting ones on this topic, here’s a few that stand out! 

Get to your goal if not by big step, then by little steps. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you. What matters is if you get there or not ~  L. R. Haake~

 When you know better you do better ~ Unknown ~